Changeable: how collaborative problem solving changes lives at home, at school, and at work, hardcover/j. stuart ablon

A proven, powerful way to make meaningful changes in behavior -- at home, at work, in others, and in ourselves ``Why wont you change?`` Its the battle cry of anyone whos ever tried to help a troubled teen, an undisciplined colleague, a stubborn spouse.

and anyone whos ever tried to curb bad habits and behavior in him or herself.

Why is it so hard to change unwanted behavior? This paradigm-shifting book presents an evidence-based approach that actually works.

Rather than judging, blaming, harsher punishment, or a call for more willpower, a more effective response to problem behavior is recognizing theres a lack of skill, not a lack of will.

Based on psychologist Stuart Ablons more than twenty-five years of clinical work with some of the most challenging populations (juvenile offenders, convicted criminals, and other institutionalized individuals) as well as training teachers, police officers, and other professionals, C hangeable presents a new way of thinking about solving our most vexing behavioral problems--and practical advice to put the ideas into practice.

Forget tough love, zero tolerance, and other outdated ways to try to eliminate bad behavior.

Instead, look for whats missing--the ability to tolerate frustration and change, for example--and work together to find a solution that will actually stick.