Talking about feelings: a book to assist adults in helping children unpack, understand and manage their feelings and emotions - jayneen sanders

The aim of this book is to assist adults in helping children unpack, understand and manage their feelings and emotions in an engaging and interactive way.

This book can be used by parents, caregivers, teachers and/or health professionals who may have specific concerns about a child, or who simply wish to check in to see how their child is fairing, and is an ideal addition to their toolkit.

I strongly suggest using this book over a number of sessions, working through it slowly and at the childs pace; ensuring they have sufficient time to respond.

This book should be thought of as a series of stimuli designed to initiate discussions about the childs feelings.

It is NOT a series of questions that must be answered in a linear way.

Be prepared to stop and listen to the child and be flexible in the use of this book.

It is also important that the adult is an active listener, i.

taking the time to hear what the child may be trying to convey.

Children, particularly young children, do not have the vocabulary or the experience to draw upon to express exactly how they are feeling.

This book has been designed to assist parents, caregivers, teachers and health professionals to help children understand what they are feeling and why they might feel that way, and to encourage them to talk about and describe their feelings and emotions in a non-pressured, guided and safe environment.

The questions in this book are suggestions only.

The adult who is using this book with the child needs to follow the childs lead in order to have a meaningful and authentic discussion.

Talking about challenging emotions and accumulating a ready bank of feeling words helps a child to better express their emotions rather than act them out through negative behaviours.

Providing children with the skills and words to express their feelings is key to helping them move forward in a positive way.

Before using this book with a child, please familiarise yourself with the entire contents, and read Using this Book on pages 37-39 so you are familiar with the questions and format.

Using this Book The following ideas and questions are a guide only.

In order to have an authentic discussion between the child and yourself, try to follow their lead.

Encourage them to keep talking if they wish to discuss a particular aspect or section of the book.

Also dont be afraid to ask your own questions, if they seem appropriate, regarding the direction the child is taking the discussion.

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